On old-school dating services like OKCupid, you answer a battery of questions to find a match. On Tinder, you work with a combo of cute pictures and a few sentences description. These platforms don’t get at what couples psychologist Peter Pearson calls the “holy grail” of relationships: finding someone who shares the same core values as you. Core values are more important than the chemical rush of excitement that you feel when you meet someone you have mutual attraction with, he says, since those hormonal reactions will fade with time, but shared values can sustain. “People don’t really negotiate their values,” says Pearson, who’s![]()
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